In the mean time, I am rather upset, as of lately. Some of my extended family has (not so) graciously informed me that either a) I am not planning a wedding that meets their expectations, or b) they would rather go on vacation. Yes. You read that correctly. Noting that the vacation plans where made months after I announced my wedding date AND them saying that the wedding is too close to school starting (let me get this straight... it's ok to go on vacation the week before school starts, but going to one of your counsin's weddings is too much to ask? Oh, you only have 8 counsins to begin with? oh... ok... I understand. not.) I'll just cut to the chase.
That really hurts my feelings that I do not deserve your love and support at this time. Heck, what is family for? In any case, I have been rather worked up over this whole thing, and I have a head ache, and I'm going to take a nap.
The End.
4 comments:
I completely know how you feel. The same thing happened to me. It will be fine. In the end it comes down to what is most important & that is the two of you making a day something to remember & sharing it with those you love & who show you the same love in return. It won't be perfect the way you imagine, no matter how hard you try, but it will still be perfect. If you need something though, please call or e-mail. I know a sure needed support when I was planning mine!
I agree with what Katy Beth said. I had a very rough wedding planning period, as you know...family + support didn't really exist for me. If you're not "planning YOUR wedding THEIR way" then too bad. I would always listen to the advice of everyone but ultimately it was my special day. You should look at it that way as well. None of my family saw me get married, but I knew that this was what Heavenly Father wanted me to do...so I did it. I had about 12 members of my family at my wedding reception...the rest were Bill's family and friends. Take home thought: this is yours and Brandan's day, period. You are getting sealed in the temple of God and this is centered around you two and the Lord, not the people who are helping plan, attending, or whatever else family does for your wedding!!! I hope this made sense!!! If you want help, want to talk, chill whatever don't hesitate to call!!!!
As my mom always said.....does it effect my eternal salvation and if it does then worry about it, if not, well there are enough things to worry about in this life. Family are always going to be there to let you down and to pick you up, but they are family and will always be in your life, so be patient and loving. Trust me there will be enough times in your life with your husband that this will be true. Forgiveness is the key to you feeling better about the whole thing, not whether or not they come the wedding! Just enjoy that you are getting married, it is so wonderful and exciting. Like Doctor Phil says, "do you want to be right or do you want to be happy?!" I love you ans wish I could be there!
i'll put in my 2 cents...none of my dads side of the family came to my wedding. not even grandparents. and they are by no means money restricted. like your friend jamie said...it's not really about the day itself. it's about the sealing and the eternity part of it. just know you will have bradan forever and that is truly what matters. your family will see their wrongs eventually. =) and you will be the bigger person to be able to forgive them.
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